You may think that one negative thought by itself doesn't seem like much. However, repetitive negative thoughts bring in negative energy that actually attract negative experiences.
There are six common areas of habitual negative thinking:
- Complaining
- Blaming
- Self-criticism
- Criticim
- The Could've, Should've, Would've Syndrome
- Envy
Do you keep attracting negative experiences? Before voicing out a negative thought, do you think about how it will affect the person you are saying it to?
I am not an optimist, nor am I a pessimist. But I do try to avoid thinking of negative experiences and talking about them (especially, when it is work-related). I don't want to ruin someone else's day. I don't mind listening to someone vent, for as long as it is not a repetitive topic.
So, what do I do to avoid 'negativity'? Here are a few suggestions:
- Instead of complaining, think of a solution - Change it, leave it, accept it or forget about it.
- Monitor your thoughts and what you speak so you can eliminate negative thinking (including those that you might not think of as negative) - Always 'think twice'.
- Instead of blaming, take responsibility for your own life. You are not a victim--other than by choice.
- Look for things you like about your experiences.
- Look for things you admire about people.
- Make sure your suggestions are constructive and caring.
- Learn from the past so that we no longer use it as an excuse for limiting our future.
- Consciously develop positive patterns in your life.
Most of the time, we cannot just erase negative thoughts. I find it more effective to replace negative thoughts with positive/neutral thoughts.
When I look back at some of my entries, I noticed that I've written about a lot of negative thoughts. At first I was alarmed by this. But then, I realized that venting once (via a journal) has helped a lot. Some people prefer to talk about it. I prefer writing about it. After posting my entry, I shift to a different 'thought' and move on. Sometimes, I write about my experience in general & mention how the issue can be resolved, hoping that when someone in the same situation runs across my blog, they find it helpful.
Is the glass half-empty or half-full?
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Oh, but is there really a glass? Heehee.
Rambling Gypsy
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